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Help Please – Fashion, Beauty, Dating, Love, Relationships, Competitions – Your Say

Are you Single? Looking for a relationship? Like dating? Love fashion? Enjoy beauty treatments? Want help with you finances? Enjoy competitions and giveaways… The list could go on…

Well, SHI Symbol needs your input on what YOU would like to see changed, added or deleted from the SHI Symbol International Emag – AND you can WIN big time.


SHI Symbol's International Emag for Singles - May 2010 Edition

SHI Symbol's International Emag for Singles - May 2010 Edition

Peruse it, note your likes, dislikes and any suggestions. Then:

Please send Comments to this blog or send email Jan at SHI Symbol and we will try to incorporate your suggestions.

NOW WAIT FOR IT – EVERYONE who responds will receive a FREE Global travel club membership valued at $99 from thetoptravelclub.com – just perfect for you and your family to use on your next holiday or even business trip.

Note: If you would like to view OTHER SHI Symbol Emags – just go to the SHI SYmbol Website and click on Emags at top of page. By the way, it’s FREE to subscribe and receive them!


I’m Human First – What’s Hot – That’s So Gay Live and SHI Symbol

SHI Symbol Interview by Founder Jan Pagonis for That’s So Gay Live – I’m Human First

Nicole Peters our roving reporter in Australia reports on ‘What’s Hot’ in Australia.

This Video interview with Jan Pagonis, owner of SHISymbol International shows you just how fashion savvy the Aussies are and how Singles there are leading the world in how you can meet your match easily. whatever your sexual preference.

This report was compiled for US based http://www.thatssogaylive.com that is a resource and news site that streams video from different segments like, gay news, gay travel, romance and hot topics. All with a friendly gay twist.

Travel Options for the GLBT Community

SHI Symbol features all sorts of travel opportunities in the Emag. We’ve been asked in particular for information relating to travel options for the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender communities. Thanks to Sarah Harris for this informative post.

What do you want out of your travel experience?  Are you looking for all inclusive?  A cruise?  Alone or with others?  Are you specifically looking for a gay vacation?  Do you just want to know what some gay friendly options are?

Here are several sites that can get you started:
Check out “Camp” Camp, a summer camp for GLBT adults!  Operating since 1997, it’s that sleep-away camp experience from your childhood.  With sports, outdoor activities, arts and crafts, and evening social events, this camp in Maine is a great alternative vacation option.  With cabins like you remember, but food you don’t (there are chefs not lunch ladies) you’ll find all kinds of things to do, friends to make, and fun to be had.  Truly, this is a community and friend making experience.

·   Purple Roofs is a great travel planning tool.  A GLBT travel directory, it can clue you into destinations all over the world.  The listings are either gay-owned or gay friendly.  Did you ever want to see a particular country?  This is your chance to know you’re going to have a gay friendly experience when you do.

Bike the Nile Alyson Adventures gay lesbian  communities

Bike the Nile Alyson Adventures gay lesbian

·      Alyson Adventures is a leading the way in creating adventure travel and active vacations for the gay community.  In business since 1995, they create unique adventure tours for the GLBT community as well as their friends and family.  They have destinations wide flung over the world such as France, Australia, Vietnam – even Antarctica.   Their philosophy: “to enhance travel for gay men, lesbians and friends with an emphasis on activities, small groups and expanding the experience by getting closer to the environment.”

·     Lesbians can enjoy great cruise, resort, and luxury vacations at Olivia. Olivia Companies originally started as a women’s record label back in 1973.  The company has evolved into a leader in lesbian travel.  The San Francisco based company offers cruise, resort, ecotour, and luxury vacations.  They charter whole ships, resorts, and tours – from small gatherings to cruises of 2000 women.  With a strong online presence, they have created a great community of women around the world.

· RSVP Vacations, the originator of the gay and lesbian cruise concept, has been around since 1985.  The new idea at that time was to provide a safe, tailor-made vacation for gays and lesbians.  With cruises to international locations, over 35,000 travelers have enjoyed their destinations.

It doesn’t matter where you want to go; you can probably find fantastic GLBT friendly destination, tour, cruise, adventure, vacation… You name it and you’re on your way.  Check these sites out, do a little research, and you’ll have the best vacation you’ve ever had.  Bon Voyage!

Sarah Harris is the Marketing Manager for Adiamor, a diamond jewelry website. Adiamor offers a large selection of engagement rings, loose diamonds, and other fine diamond jewelry at affordable prices.

And please, if you have a favorite GLBT travel company, do please let us know where it is, what they specialise in eg adventure travel, romantic interludes etc and why it is your favorite. SHI Symbol would love to pass the word on for everyone’s sake.

Singles and Valentine’s Day: Ten Tips for Less Stress

Does the thought of Valentine’s Day give you feelings of stress? Well, here are some pointers to focusing on how to manage Valentine’s day stress with realistic  expectations, finding support, positive thinking and savoring the moment.

Valentine’s Day is a romantic time for couples – a special day to express love. But it can also put pressure on people who, every other day of the year, are perfectly fine with their single status. Are you one of the millions of singles who is lonely on this day? Feeling alienated or insecure may leave you depressed – and worried that you don’t have the energy or motivation to do what is in your best interests.

But you don’t have to react like that. Although you can’t control whether or not you have a romantic attachment at this time, you can control how you handle Valentine’s Day. Follow these 10 tips and you can put this one day a year in perspective and take your stress level down a notch:

1. Give yourself an emotional break and watch what happens. With a deep breath, release any negative thoughts you have about not being in a relationship. Actively dispute the notion that you are unworthy or unattractive. Choose an affirmation that rings true for you – I’m fine just the way I am; my life is full of those who care about me – and repeat it out loud, with conviction and often.

2. Take a step back and trust your instincts. Listening to your inner voice can provide comfort and reassurance about where you are right now. As you recognize your strengths, focus on why you’re happy with who you are and what’s important to you. Be sure that you’re integrating your core values and personal ideals into how you live your life.

3. Pay attention to the positives in your relationships. Notice who you enjoy spending time with and what about them brings you pleasure. And remember that your personal character and qualities make them want to be your friends. Relax into your friendships as you enjoy fuller and deeper conversations.

4. Connect often with others. Going out with a group of colleagues can sometimes be more fun than a date. And having support is especially important when you’re feeling down. You can bring more intimacy into your circle of friends. Be willing to reveal your opinions and needs so that they have access to your inner world. And encourage them to do the same with you.

5. Lower your expectations about today. Actually, there really is no perfect day, so relax. Be realistic and proactive. You can take the lead and make a plan – organize a potluck dinner, a hike in the hills or a barbeque at the park. The wonderful memories you create will last long after the day is over.

6. Give back some love. Do you have a relative or neighbor who could use a visit or phone call? Go outside your normal routine and get in touch with someone you’ve been meaning to call – it could brighten the day for both of you. Studies show that when you shift attention away from yourself to others, you actually feel better.

7. Volunteer your time. Nothing makes the day more special than a good deed. And the payback of altruism or giving back can help you see the situation from a much better perspective. Spending the day in a soup kitchen or a homeless shelter helps those in need, increases your connections and can improver your sense of self.

8. Let go of bad feelings and think positive. If you continue to feel frustrated, angry or disappointed, remember that a minor change in attitude can make a big difference in how you relate to others. According to Indira Gandhi, “You cannot shake hands with a clenched fist.” Try to find humor in your situation and fall back on laughter.

 9. Focus on a relationship plan. If it’s what you want, you can define objectives that will move you in that direction. Tell those you trust that you would appreciate being fixed up. Make a list of what you expect in a partner and what changes you may be willing to make. Join a singles group or a dating website. Take whatever steps you think are vital to improve your chances.

10. Relax and rejuvenate to relieve stress. Nurture yourself and your body through regular exercise, good nutrition and proper rest. Attend to your mind and your spirit. Practice techniques of deep breathing or your own form of meditation. And set aside quiet time to do what brings you pleasure. This sort of attitude will sustain you as well as promote greater self care. 

On Valentine’s Day, give yourself the priceless gift of a life less stressed. Mark the calendar with February 14th as the first day of the rest of your life. Commit to keeping your worry in check and maintaining balance in your life. As you savor your newfound power, cast a love spell in celebration of you. 

© 2010, Her Mentor Center

By family relationship experts, Phyllis Goldberg, Ph.D. and Rosemary Lichtman, Ph.D.  Visit http://www.HerMentorCenter.com for more useful information

Stress less - be happy, Valentine's Day or not!

Stress less - be happy, Valentine's Day or not!

Last Singles eMag for 2009 – read it here…

Once again it’s the end of the year – time to reflect on everything we have done and everything we would like to do in 2010 whether you’re Single or not!

For all you guys and girls who haven’t as yet had the opportunity to read the SHI Symbol eMag –this is our very last one for 2009. Please enjoy the features on travel, relationships, finance, beauty, wine and much much more.  And of course, we’d love your feedback too.

SHI Symbol International eMag Dec-front-cover300
SHI Symbol International eMag Dec-front-cover300

And to subscribe to the SHI Symbol FREE monthly emag go to www.shisymbol.com/newsletter.php – You won’t be disappointed.

and Sex Comes First… or is that second?

Haha – got you!

I’m talking about a new book!

Renowned US Actor and Dating and Relationships Author, Kimberly Dawn Neumann’s latest book is about to hit the shelves. Entitled “Sex Comes First” it’s being released  next month and is bound to be another fantastic read . If you were engrossed in Kimberly’s first book on “The Real Reasons Men Commit’ , this new one will be just as informative and enjoyable.

Look out for more updates in the SHI Symbol Newsletter. Not yet a member? Join here.

Renowned US Dating and Relationships  Author and Actress

Renowned US Dating and Relationships Author and Actress

Have you any comments to share on Kimberly’s first book. We’d love to hear your thoughts.

Secrets to Dating and Relationships Revealed – Your Essential Guide


Single at the moment? Considering another Relationship? Just ended a relationship? Contemplating what went wrong? Thinking about how you could have done things differently with this man? And so the list of self torturing doubts begins.

 dating and relationship secrets


Help is at hand. Have you ever had that feeling when you’ve finished a book and thought you’ve got to tell the world about how fantastic it was. Well, it happened to me with Geoff Barker’s mind-blowing book entitled “What’s on a Man’s Mind. That’s right, written by a bloke and a ‘must read’ by all women wanting to know the truth about men and what or rather how they think and what to do about it. And yes, I know you may have just ended a relationship, but guys do actually think — just differently to the female species!


This very informative book helps one by simply providing an understanding of different relationship styles, the different personality types men can have, and thus allows women to understand where they are ‘coming from’.

Geoff Barker runs seminars and speaks regularly on his experiences on relationships. With overwhelming popularity, there is a huge demand for enlightenment as to how the male side of a relationship ticks. Geoff also provides you with answers to questions on the mind and body and how to stop the relationship rollercoasters. If you’ve ever found yourself wondering how our different personality types impact on everything we do in life from work situations to relationships, this book really helps give that  insight. It identifies the sorts of reactions one gets from each personality style and it humorously describes how to deal with each situation.


If you want to be armed before you go on your next date, it also reveals the home truths on what’s really on a man’s mind and how they think so differently. Of course, a lot of it is commonsense, but when it is in black and white in front of you, it’s quite confronting and amazingly true. Geoff Barker gives other pointers in the book to help you spot the differences between ‘players’ and ‘stayers’.


I know we’ve all heard the scientific fact that men’s brains are wired differently to women’s. Well here’s another snippet of information to store away and use as required. This book goes further and explains the chemicals and chemical reactions that take place when a guy meets a woman. In a nutshell, quite often the chemical reaction is true –and how the man works from that. But when the relationship moves on from the 6 weeks to say the 3 months stage, the chemical reaction in their body tends to change and when it stops firing in a man – that’s when a relationship begins to break down, even though they have been coming from an honest and truthful place. Often it’s simply run its course and the bonding chemical hasn’t ‘kicked in’…So theoretically the relationship is doomed. Women, who do not understand this aspect of why relationships often fail, beat themselves up. If you do want to change this self-destructive process and find out how to make things work out better the next time, you owe yourself the chance by gleaning as much information as you can from a book such a this.


Between you and me it really is a two-way street for relationships to prosper and what goes on for men goes for women as well. Alas, the reality is, if this book were written in the same way, but by a woman for men to understand women, men wouldn’t pick up the book so that is why there are not many around. Men generally just do not pick up books like this. They tend to never look at relationship issues or have the same interest level for discovering the secrets to relationships like women do. Okay, so there are the odd exceptions to the rule – granted. Anyway I say thanks Geoff for having the guts to reveal all the Secret Men’s Business!


And yet, if we could get all men to read this one book, they would find it quite an eye-opener to understand where they come from in relationships as well. If you want to grow and change by learning from your past experiences, you can do this very easily now simply by reading and discovering as much as you can about relationship ‘secrets’ and how to recognize what you could do differently next time you’re looking at prospective dates. It’s all about self-help these days!


That’s where the ultimate self-help tool – the SHI Symbol for Singles is revolutionalising the dating scene, as we need to seek, and date many men or women, before settling on the perfect one for us. SHI Symbol is fast becoming the new ‘meeting people’ tool to identify the Single species out and about in their everyday lives. Thanks to all the self help dating/relationship books and tools now available, we are all (male and female) becoming far more astute as to what we want, so we have to meet many more people to find the one or just a companion. And that is the topic of another blog out very shortly too — What do you REALLY want from a relationship?


There are literally thousands of other Relationship, Dating and Self-Help books out there and heaven knows I’ve read and digested many over my last 12 years of singledom. Further articles will outline what has been helpful to myself and others and some do’s and don’ts for dating. There is a myriad of information available via Internet Online Publications and pointers will be provided to direct you to some of the better dating publications I’ve come across. There is just so much valuable information out there to help us all really enjoy our dating and relationships – and so much is FREE.


As the saying goes – Watch this Space and we’ll grow together and always remember how valuable you are