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Marketing love

marketing loveA friend recently called me and asked me the dreaded question, how to wade back into the dating waters. He had been married for about 7 years, maybe more, maybe less, I don’t keep track of things like that.

I told him I would get back to him, because I am often torn between being completely honest and trying to be nice. See, he is a swell guy, a good person, who has a good job, a decent house and seems like his addictions are almost all legal substances, coffee, wine with a meal and the occasional beer.

In my mind, I could answer his question by just saying, you know, get out there, do the dance, the basics that we all have been doing since caveman days. Go to bars, go to clubs, go to baseball games, libraries, take a class. Meet someone in the natural food section of his local supermarket. Simple really, but then if that was the case, he would probably not be asking me for advice.

So I called him back, and said the following, “loose 25 pounds and stop complaining.”

I think he hung up, but later, in an email he claimed it was a dropped call.

People respond differently when I throw a round of honesty at them. My take on his dilemma and many others is this, dating is a competitive process and if you want to meet someone great, you have to shine your greatness up before taking it out for a spin.

See, my friend really is a nice guy, a great catch. But over the course of his long term relationship, he spent more time having swell dinners and a lot less time working out, riding a bike, walking around the park and generally wondering if his weight gain could be hazardous to his health.

I know, I know, it’s so shallow the judge a book by its cover. Then again, I am often in airports and looking for something to read, I almost always judge the books by their covers. The same is true in the dating world. If you really want to attract a beautiful bird, you might want to make sure you have the elements that attract a birds attention. It is so hard to amplify your personality, show off your amazing intellect or somehow show people that you are great in bed, all the while walking down the street, grabbing a beer at a bar, I could go on.

When I was able to reconnect with my friend with DCS – drop call syndrome, I told him what I am telling you. It is a fun filled world out there, but so many of us, and yes, I do include my shallow self in this assessment, rely on physical attraction long before we wonder about things like “I wonder if this person speaks my language” or “does this person have a job?”

I explained that while I believed he was a good friend and that I thought anyone who dated him would certainly agree, getting someone to date him would take work.

I know it is shallow, but on many levels, we end up marketing ourselves in the dating world much like companies market new products. It is not enough to just build a better mousetrap, companies have to find creative ways to explain why you need a better mousetrap. In dating land we dress better, clean our homes, shower and clean up. My advice to my friend was, think of dating as you would any sort of first time meeting, say, a job interview. You have one time to set the table, to impress and also show that beneath the clothes and hair and clean shaved skin, there is a real person who experiences joy and heartbreak, who loves and feels emotions, who can converse on a wide range of subjects with intelligence and humor, but before you can get to your depth, you have to get past the shallow part, the animalistic attraction.

Matt Bertles is an Award winning Journalist, filmmaker and guest blogger for SHI Symbol today. You can find out more at www.mergatroidfilms.com

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Help Please – Fashion, Beauty, Dating, Love, Relationships, Competitions – Your Say

Are you Single? Looking for a relationship? Like dating? Love fashion? Enjoy beauty treatments? Want help with you finances? Enjoy competitions and giveaways… The list could go on…

Well, SHI Symbol needs your input on what YOU would like to see changed, added or deleted from the SHI Symbol International Emag – AND you can WIN big time.

It’s very easy to have your input – CLICK THE EMAG BELOW, OR THIS LINK AND YOU WILL A UTOMATICALLY BE TAKEN TO THE LAST EMAG.

SHI Symbol's International Emag for Singles - May 2010 Edition

SHI Symbol's International Emag for Singles - May 2010 Edition

Peruse it, note your likes, dislikes and any suggestions. Then:

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I’m Human First – What’s Hot – That’s So Gay Live and SHI Symbol

SHI Symbol Interview by Founder Jan Pagonis for That’s So Gay Live – I’m Human First

Nicole Peters our roving reporter in Australia reports on ‘What’s Hot’ in Australia.

This Video interview with Jan Pagonis, owner of SHISymbol International shows you just how fashion savvy the Aussies are and how Singles there are leading the world in how you can meet your match easily. whatever your sexual preference.

This report was compiled for US based http://www.thatssogaylive.com that is a resource and news site that streams video from different segments like, gay news, gay travel, romance and hot topics. All with a friendly gay twist.

Unusual Places to go on a First Date

First Dates

First Dates

First dates have evolved considerably since the Middle Ages, when a couples´ introduction to each other may not have been until they met at the altar! Dating has now become an industry in its own right with books, magazines and web sites dedicated to ensuring that you select the right place to go, are suitably attired and create a flawless impression with your potential partner. Advice is frequently offered on how to avoid the mundane and make that first encounter special, and inasmuch as a film, dinner or riverboat ride may be romantic, we cannot all afford to do it in Paris (which would be memorable!). So, here are a few suggestions for making that never-to-be-forgotten first date, which will tell you more about your potential partner than just the way they slurp their spaghetti.

Paintball. Starting a new relationship in a fight! Is this such a good idea? Well, provided you are both on the same side, you will be working together as a couple to ensure that the team you are in achieve their objective. Paintballing can be a lot of fun, and involves planning, strategy and teamwork as well as the physical element of pumping emulsion into each other a lá Tarantino. Tip 1. If your female partner greets this suggestion with more enthusiasm than you anticipated – worry!

 
 
 
Star Trek Convention

Star Trek Convention

Elvis/Star Trek/Rocky Horror Show Conventions

These are fantastic opportunities to dress up as your idol or favorite character and exchange stories about your most precious moments. The chance is that you will discover more about each other than you would have at a movie, and this will be an event that you always look back on and make part of your future plans. Tip 2. If your male partner looks better than you in make-up and stockings, you may want to re-consider this option.

Acupuncture to Stop Smoking. You may have first made eye contact sheltering from the elements as you take a cigarette break from the office, but now you want to take the relationship further. What better way to start a future life together than committing to give up smoking and making an appointment to see an acupuncturist? Tip 3. Do not bring your cigarettes with you on this date!

Psychics

Psychics

Visit a Psychic. This is a make or break first date. No need to worry about what your friends think about your new potential partner. Forget about what your horoscope says in the dailies. Consult somebody who is supposed to know which way your life is going and who with, and you will find out whether this relationship is doomed to failure or if you will live happily ever after. Tip 4. Go dutch on this date – just in case!

Get a Tattoo. Getting a tattoo is possibly a step further than most people expecting a pizza and cup of coffee would have anticipated on their first date. However, if you know that your date has an interest in tattooing, the emotional and physical act of indelibly marking your skin will leave more than a lasting image on your body! Tip 5. If your partner intends to engrave your name all over their body, you may have a “Fatal Attraction” problem.

Dog Obedience Classes. If you share a love of mans best friend, then there is a good chance that you will be compatible too. However, dogs can reflect their owners´ characteristics, so if your partner’s dog refuses to follow simple commands this may be an indication of what the future holds! Attending a dog obedience class is a great opportunity for you and your dogs to bond, and will be a sharing experience that you will always remember. Tip 6. You will both need a dog!

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EdAnd – hey – here’s another great first date idea – give each other a relaxing foot therapy – reflexology is renowned for getting your body tuned up, putting you in a peaceful space and generally giving you the greatest opportunity to make the most of your first date! And if you can’t do this to each other, book in for a ‘couples’ foot massage at your local massage center!

There are Love Stories and then there are Love Stories…

Incredible, Unbelievable and any other description you care to come up with applies here.

Err - where's Turbo on this thing?

Err - where's Turbo on this thing?

You won't find this in a Mills & Boon

You won't find this in a Mills & Boon

Lovely teeth, beautiful condition, no I don't need to check the molars

Lovely teeth, beautiful condition, no I don't need to check the molars

You're feeling shy?

You're feeling shy?

Oh, you saw JAWS - yes, that was me!

Oh, you saw JAWS - yes, that was me!

Good boy! (What else could he say! What would you have said?)

Good boy! (What else could he say! What would you have said?)

I’d love to see what this guy has on his dating profile. I’m guessing it would read something like this:

Profession: Top Rate Dentist

About me: I like living on the edge and love outdoor adventures. I’m at one with nature. Looking for excitement in a relationship. Will travel the many seas to be with the one for me.

And yes, this did happen in Australia. And no, most of us stick to the normal everyday boring (but generally safe!) cats, dogs and some venture as far as guinea pigs and rabbits. job that’s all his…

 But there again, we are famous for the likes of Crocodile Dundee, Steve Irwin and Malcom Douglas, so there must be something in the water…

I’ve heard of the horse whisperer. This fellow must be the shark whisperer. It’s a job that’s all his!

Philosophy for Old Age

This beautiful Powerpoint presentation was passed on to me by my lovely friend Tony – probably for a number of reasons, but the one I’m hoping it was for is because I love photography – and these images are just stunning. I wish I was as talented as this.

What’s this got to do with Singles, dating, partying, falling in love, finding the man or woman of your dreams, being married, having kids, working, working and working. Well nothing in some ways, but everything in others. 

Just take a moment to view this most beautiful ppt – and the music is lovely also, and you will be reminded just how wonderful life is, live it like every day is your last and make the most of every day. Don’t wish you life away, it zooms by so quickly as it is. Look it’s now 10th April 2010 – I still remember when there was the hoohah about the “Millenium Bug” and I can’t believe that was 10 YEARS ago.

If you’re 16 and wishing you were 23 – don’t, you will be soon enough! In your 20’s and can’t wait till you’re 30 and ‘made it’ in your company? It’ll happen, just enjoy the ride. If you’re in your 30s, have a couple of rugrats and wish you were ‘free’ – just look at them when they’re asleep and you’ll wish you could have those precious moments all over again one day.

If you’re happily married and you’ve found your niche in life, that’s just perfect. If you’re Single and looking for the man or woman of your dreams – enjoy every day in the meantime. If you’re Single or in a relationship, and happy in the ‘place’ you’re at at the moment – that’s just wonderful. Whatever our situation, there’s no need for us to age quicker than time does for us.

Feel free to share this post with all your friends and family. At worst they’ll enjoy the photos and/or music. At best they’ll take in the beautiful message within this presentation. Either way, you’ll have helped to put a smile on their face and to make a difference to their day.

screen shot philosophy on ageing

screen shot philosophy on ageing

 CLICK THIS FOR A WONDERFUL PRESENTATION Philosophy_For_Old_Age_GeorgeCarl

How to Get Through Life – a Babe’s Perspective…

Sleep as much as you can
Sleep as much as you can…

   

Read books that you enjoy…

Play with simple things

Play with simple things

Do whatever you want

Do whatever you want

Whenever you want…   

Get serious once in a while

Get serious once in a while

Forget about diets

Forget about diets

Show some affection

Show some affection

Get angry once in a while...

Get angry once in a while...

Get angry once in a while...

Change Your Looks...

Above all be happy
Above all be happy

Regardless of what  your challenges may be…   

Have a great life!  

Have a great life

May your troubles be less,

Your blessings more,  

And may nothing but happiness  

Come through your door.     

Life is too short

Yes, this was one of those email messages but I so liked it – must be a sucker for babies I guess, so thought everyone could enjoy it with me. Instead of emailing this message around, simply send this link https://shisymbolinternational.wordpress.com/2010/03/19/how-to-get-through-life-a-babes-perspective/ to everyone and ask them to let you know they got your message (link) via the Comments section.

You’ll soon know who your friends are…