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Marketing love

marketing loveA friend recently called me and asked me the dreaded question, how to wade back into the dating waters. He had been married for about 7 years, maybe more, maybe less, I don’t keep track of things like that.

I told him I would get back to him, because I am often torn between being completely honest and trying to be nice. See, he is a swell guy, a good person, who has a good job, a decent house and seems like his addictions are almost all legal substances, coffee, wine with a meal and the occasional beer.

In my mind, I could answer his question by just saying, you know, get out there, do the dance, the basics that we all have been doing since caveman days. Go to bars, go to clubs, go to baseball games, libraries, take a class. Meet someone in the natural food section of his local supermarket. Simple really, but then if that was the case, he would probably not be asking me for advice.

So I called him back, and said the following, “loose 25 pounds and stop complaining.”

I think he hung up, but later, in an email he claimed it was a dropped call.

People respond differently when I throw a round of honesty at them. My take on his dilemma and many others is this, dating is a competitive process and if you want to meet someone great, you have to shine your greatness up before taking it out for a spin.

See, my friend really is a nice guy, a great catch. But over the course of his long term relationship, he spent more time having swell dinners and a lot less time working out, riding a bike, walking around the park and generally wondering if his weight gain could be hazardous to his health.

I know, I know, it’s so shallow the judge a book by its cover. Then again, I am often in airports and looking for something to read, I almost always judge the books by their covers. The same is true in the dating world. If you really want to attract a beautiful bird, you might want to make sure you have the elements that attract a birds attention. It is so hard to amplify your personality, show off your amazing intellect or somehow show people that you are great in bed, all the while walking down the street, grabbing a beer at a bar, I could go on.

When I was able to reconnect with my friend with DCS – drop call syndrome, I told him what I am telling you. It is a fun filled world out there, but so many of us, and yes, I do include my shallow self in this assessment, rely on physical attraction long before we wonder about things like “I wonder if this person speaks my language” or “does this person have a job?”

I explained that while I believed he was a good friend and that I thought anyone who dated him would certainly agree, getting someone to date him would take work.

I know it is shallow, but on many levels, we end up marketing ourselves in the dating world much like companies market new products. It is not enough to just build a better mousetrap, companies have to find creative ways to explain why you need a better mousetrap. In dating land we dress better, clean our homes, shower and clean up. My advice to my friend was, think of dating as you would any sort of first time meeting, say, a job interview. You have one time to set the table, to impress and also show that beneath the clothes and hair and clean shaved skin, there is a real person who experiences joy and heartbreak, who loves and feels emotions, who can converse on a wide range of subjects with intelligence and humor, but before you can get to your depth, you have to get past the shallow part, the animalistic attraction.

Matt Bertles is an Award winning Journalist, filmmaker and guest blogger for SHI Symbol today. You can find out more at www.mergatroidfilms.com

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Couples Massage: How Soon is Too Soon?

You’ve only been dating for a few days, weeks, or months (insert time-frame) but everything seems to be clicking.  You don’t want to jump the gun, but you’re beginning to think this person is THE ONE.  And so you’ve decided that it’s time to take it to the next level and organize a special treat for the two of you, something intimate, relaxing, romantic, and off the beaten path: a couples massage.  You love a good massage and you know they will, too.  So why not do it together?  It sounds like a good idea, but you’ve begun to second-guess yourself.  What if your partner thinks you’re moving too fast or that you’re some kind of creepy weirdo?  How can you tell if it’s too soon to do couples massage?

Couples Massages in a tropical wonderful

Couples Massages in a tropical wonderful

For starters, do you classify yourselves as a couple?  If not, it may be too soon.  If you’re not exclusively dating someone, if it’s just “casual”, or if you don’t even know their last name, chances are a couples massage is a bit of a stretch (as is the term “couple”).  You may want to hold off for a bit if you don’t want to get slapped with a restraining order for stalking.  If, however, your relationship has moved to next level (you’ve become intimate, met each other’s parents, keep toothbrushes at each other’s apartments, and have commenced to ignore/blow off your friends), you can probably assume that it’s safe to surprise your significant other with an afternoon of spoiling for two.Couples Massage

But if you’re still not sure, maybe you should ruminate on what, exactly, a couples massage entails.  In case you didn’t know, you’ll pretty much be naked (albeit under a sheet or towel).  You will also be on tables right next to each other, close enough to hold hands or gaze lovingly into each other’s eyes…as you are touched by two total strangers.  Uh-huh.  If the vibe sounds a little creepy, chances are it is.  It’s hard enough playing the get-to-know-you game without watching some Fabio wannabe touch your lady, or wondering what that cute little Asian girl with hands of steel is doing to your boyfriend while you’re face-down on the mat.  If you’re not quite comfortable watching your partner interact intimately with another person, you might want to plan something a bit more private, like the two of you massaging each other (it might be more fun to get a manual and do a little pillow-time at home anyway).

Couples MassageThe truth is, even people who have been together for years may find couples massage a little awkward.  After all, the idea is to relax and that may not be possible with another person in the room.  On the other hand, some people are totally cool with letting it all hang out, even if they just met you at a Poison concert the previous night.  So before you plan a couples massage, you should have a good idea of how your partner feels about it, whether you come right out and ask, or gauge their interest in another way.  After all, you don’t want to arrive at the massage parlor only to find that you’ll be alone in a room with two tables and masseurs while your partner reads a magazine in the lobby for an hour.

Dana Rivas enjoys writing about the benefits of massage for her website Portable Massage Tables.

I’m Human First – What’s Hot – That’s So Gay Live and SHI Symbol

SHI Symbol Interview by Founder Jan Pagonis for That’s So Gay Live – I’m Human First

Nicole Peters our roving reporter in Australia reports on ‘What’s Hot’ in Australia.

This Video interview with Jan Pagonis, owner of SHISymbol International shows you just how fashion savvy the Aussies are and how Singles there are leading the world in how you can meet your match easily. whatever your sexual preference.

This report was compiled for US based http://www.thatssogaylive.com that is a resource and news site that streams video from different segments like, gay news, gay travel, romance and hot topics. All with a friendly gay twist.

Top 10 Unusual Pick-Up Lines

Pick Up Lines

Pick Up Lines

Anyone who’s spent time in the single’s scene has no doubt been subject to an array of bad pick-up lines, from giggle-inducing gems (“Are your legs tired, ‘cause you’ve been running through my mind all night”) to un-original fallbacks (“You have beautiful eyes” – that’s right, they’re up here).  At best, they might give you a laugh and at worst they may make you throw up a little in your mouth.  But guys keep trying, god love ‘em, and here are some of the best efforts.

  1. “Bond…James Bond.”  This is just funny.  It would make me laugh, or at the very least, I’d let him buy me a drink.
  2. “Let’s have breakfast tomorrow.  Should I call you or nudge you?”  The success of this depends entirely on delivery.  If he’s super suave, he might get away with it.
  3. “If I had a nickel for every time I saw someone as beautiful as you, I’d have five cents.”  This is unusual in that it’s actually kind of good.  It’s a new take on the “You have beautiful eyes” number, but much more effective.  If delivered in a sincere fashion, this one could be really sweet.
  4.  “Haven’t you seen me somewhere before?”  This one may make you do a double take, and anything that extends the conversation counts as a winning pick-up line.
  5. “If I told you you had a nice body, would you hold it against me?”  Okay, this one is not new, but at least it shows a little effort and an understanding of the tricky art of double entendre.
  6. “I lost my teddy bear, will you sleep with me?”  This one is unusual in the worst way.  It not only gives off a creepy, stalker vibe, it also says you have spaceship sheets and your “roommate” is your mom.  Ick.
  7. “You don’t sweat much for a fat chick.”  Has anyone in the history of dating ever made this line work?!  I think not.
  8. “Do you work for AT&T?  ‘Cause you’re raising my bar.”  This is another on the long list of occupational pick-up lines, but at least it’s current.
  9. “I may not be the best-looking guy here, but I’m the only one talking to you.”  This one could go either way.  It’s pretty insulting, but also self-deprecating, so it really depends on the girl (and how drunk she is).
  10. “Let me read your future.”  This is accompanied by the guy taking your hand and writing his phone number on it.  Cute and confident.  If he does it enough, maybe someone will call back.

 

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Editor PS – You don’t have to worry about weird and wonderful pick up lines when you have a SHI Symbol. Remember you can wear it or use it 24/7, anywhere, anytime and it will be your perfect conversation starter to help meet your match.

So start spotting that someone YOU’D like to chat to  and go for it with confidence – and your SHI Symbol!

That’s So Gay Live Interview – ‘What’s Hot’ in Australia…

  

 

SHI Symbol Interview by Founder Jan Pagonis for That's So Gay Live - I'm Human First

SHI Symbol Interview by Founder Jan Pagonis for That's So Gay Live - I'm Human First

 Nicole Peters our roving reporter in Australia reports on ‘What’s Hot’ in Australia.

This Video interview with Jan Pagonis, owner of SHI Symbol International shows you just how fashion savvy the Aussies are and how Singles there are leading the world in how you can meet your match easily. whatever your sexual preference.

This report was compiled for US based  www.thatssogaylive.com that is a resource and news site that streams video from different segments like, gay news,  gay travel, romance and hot topics. All with a friendly gay twist.

PLEASE CLICK ON THE PICTURE ABOVE AND YOU WILL AUTOMATICALLY BE ABLE TO VIEW THIS SHORT YOUTUBE VIDEO CLIP

 

News for Singles – SHI Symbol Emag for May out now

Here’s your must have Emag if you’re a Single somewhere in the world. Great info and loads of competitions and special offers. What more could you want! In fact once you’ve read it, we’d love your feedback and if there’s something in particular you’d like to see featured we’ll see what we can do. – but you have to let us know!!!

Simply click on the SHI Symbol Emag front cover below or click here and you will be taken to the Emag straight away.

SHI Symbol International Emag - May 2010 edition
SHI Symbol International Emag – May 2010 edition

 

 

And please don’t forget to tell all your Facebook and Twitter friends about this Emag. It’s free to subscribe to, simply click www.shisymbol.com/joinemag and you’ll receive it in your inbox.

Too easy.

Top Six Places to Meet Fun SHI Singles

If you’re SHI, chances are you’ve been trying to figure out a way to broaden your singles experience beyond just the bars and the clubs. Or maybe you’re a person who doesn’t even really like hanging around bars. Where do you go to meet new people? Honestly, bars and clubs aren’t the only places to meet new people. Single, Happy and Interested people can be found in all sorts of spots where you wouldn’t even thing of looking. They’re hidden in the most unlikely places. All that you have to do is look!

The Book Store

Who's SHI ?

Who's SHI ?

This is a great little nook where no one seems to think about looking for singles. There are few other places where you can find a huge group of very intelligent single people all in the same place. Best of all, meeting people in this venue is extremely easy. All that you have to do is peak over at the book that the person next to you is about to buy. If it’s something that you’re interested in, make a comment, and them *boom* you’ve just met a new person.

Your Thursday Evening Class

School is THE singles hookup. Take a class on a Tuesday or Thursday night, then take the SHI single you meet there out for a drink on Friday! Foreign language classes and music classes always seem to attract interesting people.

The Grocery Store

I can’t even begin to count the number of Single, Happy and Interested people I’ve met at the grocery store. You’ve just got to keep your eyes open and you’ll see that this place is a hotbed for singles action.

Your Exercise or Yoga Group

A Yoga group is a great place to meet new people.

a heck of a way to eyeball each other!

a heck of a way to eyeball each other!

I know this from personal experience. In fact, I met my current girlfriend at a yoga group. She was right in front of me stretching every Monday and Wednesday afternoon, and before long we hit it off and it became something beautiful. And this type of story is by no means uncommon.

 

Your Neighborhood Film Club

If you’re a film buff, this is a great way to meet people who share your interests. Almost every town has one of these, and I’ve met some of the coolest people when I’ve attended the one in my home town. A great film is always an excellent basis for conversation. At my club, we used to go out for drinks or coffee afterward and talk endlessly about our thoughts on whichever pretentious art film we’d decided to watch that week.

Church

Now this may sound like a long shot (or a joke) but it’s not. If you’re religious, church is THE singles hookup. And thankfully, many churches in America are much more open than they used to be. So even if you are a part of the LGBT community, finding a great church where you can be spiritually enriched and meet some SHI singles at the same time is easier than ever.

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